The pandemic has shifted so much of our lives online—some of it for the better. We’ve had to adjust to asynchronous classes, video work meetings, and even online hangout sessions to catch up with friends no matter where we are.
Therapy has also benefited from these virtual changes. You can now schedule couples counseling sessions that take place online over video or chat, which offer an easy-to-access supportive space to grow with your partner.
Benefits of Online Therapy
It can be simpler to find a therapist.
Finding a therapist can be a daunting task, especially if you’re looking for someone you and your partner can both connect with. When you’re going for in-person sessions, it’s disappointing when you’ve scheduled the time and commuted to and from the appointment only to feel that this therapist isn’t right for you. An online session streamlines this process so you can more quickly click with the counselor that will work best for both of you.
You don’t need to commute.
Since online sessions eliminate the need for getting to and from sessions, you can also branch out in your search. You have the benefit of video conferencing with a therapist several hours away across your state if need be. If you and your partner are long-distance, online therapy also enables you to be in a “room” discussing your relationship with someone.
You’re meeting from your space.
Most likely, you’ll meet with your therapist from the comfort of your home—a space you and your partner probably share. While there are advantages to meeting on the “neutral ground” of a therapist’s office, it can also be helpful to have a session where you live day to day. Since you and your partner might have communication issues relating to locations or chores in your household, a counselor walking you through these problems while you’re in that same space, you might all gain new insights.
How an Online Session Works
First, your therapist will start with an assessment of you, your partner, and what you’d like to get out of going to couples counseling. They’ll need to learn where and when you feel most comfortable and private to have these online sessions, especially if your life involves childcare or a hectic schedule. They may decide to also see you and your partner individually, alternating between partnered sessions. A good therapist will consider the relationship holistically and do what’s best for your situation.
You and your partner will have to decide how you’d like to attend your sessions—do you want to be in the same room? Should you share a computer camera, so the therapist can see your body language? Or would you rather sit in separate areas of the house, so you can feel less pressured?
After your session, you should find a way to unwind—take a walk around the block, have a few minutes to yourself. Make sure you mentally block off the time with your therapist versus your time at home.
If a synchronous meeting doesn’t feel right for you, some therapists also offer email or text therapy. These strategies involve you emailing them with questions, feelings, and situations and they give detailed responses at an arranged date. This communication is secure and can be a better option for those with very limited schedules.
Should you try online couples therapy?
Any relationship can benefit from therapy. It’s a common misconception that you should get to a therapist once your problems become so big you can’t get past them. In fact, it’s best to schedule sessions when you anticipate an issue or want to work on some specific aspect of your relationship, such as communication or intimacy. With online couples therapy as an option, it’s easier than ever to find someone that fits your needs.
To find out more about how online therapy can help you connect and grow with your partner, please reach out for marriage counseling.